I feel like putting lotion on after a shower is supposed to be an incredibly sexy act. However, I do not let the fiance see this act because I’m certain I am the antithesis of sexy when I do it.


I felt limited. I felt controlled by a website. I felt watched. When I feel boxed in, I make drastic changes.

In this case, I went underground.

There are two songs that I feel express the contradiction that is WOMAN so supremely. One is Billy Joel’s “She’s Always a Woman” – She takes care of herself, She can wait if she wants, She’s ahead of her time, And she never gives out, And she never gives in, She just changes her mind. The other is Mandy Moore’s “Can’t You Just Adore Her?” She likes chocolate in the morning, She drinks her coffee late at night, You can sense that she is guarded, But that’s alright, She’ll fall asleep while you’re still talking, With unfinished books beside her bed, She’ll cancel all of her appointments, And go shopping instead. She loves to watch the sunset, But she is partial to the rain, With those tears and that umbrella, Her allure goes unexplained… She always has the best intentions, Her goodness is innate.

I changed this blog’s name multiple times, always with lyrics from those two songs… In the end, I’ve settled on “Her Goodness is Innate.” Honestly, I changed the name so many times. But I believe in goodness in everyone, I believe our goodness is, indeed, innate. And I want to be known for innate goodness. I struggle with it. Let my blog be a daily reminder of the goodness I should radiate.

So that’s my blog’s name. Thank you, Mandy. And thank you, blogosphere, for being so fluid as to let me go underground and still feel welcome. I’ll do this blog better. I won’t feel controlled. I won’t get overwhelmed. I’ll blog without obligation. I’ll be limitless.